Your relationship starts
with who you are.
Two clinical-grade assessments. One for the individual who wants to understand their relational wiring. One for the couple who's done guessing.
Individual
Personal Growth Assessment
10 dimensions · R600 · 20–30 min
Couples
Relationship Growth Assessment
8 dimensions · R600 · 30–40 min
Instant results · 100% private · Clinical-grade accuracy
Which assessment is for you?
Personal Growth
Assessment
R600
One-time
For the person who knows something isn't working in their love life but can't quite name it. 10 dimensions of your relational self — clinically mapped, personally interpreted.
Attachment Style — your neurological blueprint
Trauma History — ACE-informed screening
Emotional Regulation — your nervous system capacity
Self-Worth & Identity — the foundation of everything
Relationship Readiness — are you actually available?
Communication Style — what's really happening
Values & Life Vision — your relational compass
Prejudices & Biases — beliefs you project onto partners
Neurodivergence Awareness — unseen friction
Change Readiness — where you actually are
20–30 min · Instant report · PDF download
Start →Relationship Growth
Assessment
R600
Per couple
For couples who are done guessing what's wrong. A clinical-grade X-ray of both partners across 8 clinical domains — revealing hidden mismatches and a precise 3-phase healing pathway.
Attachment Compatibility — your bonding blueprints side by side
Trauma Inventory — ACE scores and what they mean for you
ADHD & Neurodivergence — the friction nobody talks about
Values Alignment — what matches, what doesn't, what matters
Change Readiness — are both partners actually ready?
Communication Patterns — the cycle beneath the argument
Future Vision Alignment — building toward the same life?
Prejudices & Biases — beliefs you project onto each other
30–40 min · Instant report · PDF download
Start →Get both for R1,000 R1,200
How it works
01
Choose your assessment
Individual or couples. Complete the multi-step clinical form at your own pace — designed to be honest, not comfortable.
02
Answer the clinical questionnaire
8 to 10 clinical dimensions—from attachment wiring to trauma history to values alignment, grounded in peer-reviewed research.
03
Receive your clinical report
Instantly. A full Brown University-style PDF with scores, insights, clinical flags, and a personalised treatment pathway.
Most couples wait 6 years before getting help.
By then, resentment has calcified. Patterns have cemented. And you're spending R1,500–R2,000 per therapy session just figuring out what the problem is. Our assessments do that work in 30 minutes — so you can walk into any session already knowing.
6 yrs
Average wait before couples seek help
R1.5–2k
Per session, just to figure out what's wrong
Same argument, different day. You're stuck in the loop.
Disconnected but can't explain why.
You keep choosing the wrong person.
A real report, not a personality quiz
Every dimension we score maps to a named, peer-reviewed clinical framework — the same ones used in couples and individual therapy rooms.
Sample · Overall Growth Score
72/100
Attachment Theory
Bowlby and Ainsworth's research on how early bonds shape adult relational patterns.
The Gottman Method
Four decades of research on what predicts relationship success and failure — our clinical risk flags.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
Sue Johnson's framework for de-escalating conflict cycles — the lens behind our fracture point analysis.
We also draw on ACE research for trauma scoring and current neurodivergence literature for our ADHD screening domain. Full citations are included in every report.
The Romantic Couples Deck
52 deep-question swap cards across four tiers — warm-up, mechanics, inner rooms, and future mapping. Built by Hakeem to help couples bypass small talk and map their relational dynamics honestly.
Why do you stay?
Questions
The Couples Assessment is for partners who want a clinical-grade map of their relational dynamics. The Personal Growth Assessment is for anyone — single, dating, separated, or in a relationship — who wants deep self-knowledge before or during love.
No — it's the ideal starting point. Our reports give you (and your therapist) a clinical-grade GPS. Most therapists say it saves 4–8 sessions of discovery work.
The Personal Growth Assessment takes 20–30 minutes. The Couples Assessment takes 30–40 minutes (both partners complete it together). Reports are instant.
That's precisely why these tools exist. Clinical flags are surfaced with severity levels, clear context, and a specific treatment pathway designed around your unique profile.
Yes. Your responses are never stored server-side. The report is generated in your browser and only persists for your session. We take privacy seriously.
The Uncommon Practice
10 essays on love, neuroscience, and what actually makes relationships work — written by Hakeem. Plus a bi-weekly letter with the same rigour, delivered straight to your inbox.
Read the essays →The most important relationship
is the one with yourself.
Start there. Then build the relationship you actually deserve.